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|  WHY THE HELL DID YOU DO THIS TO HER AGAIN?!!!!!!!!! I M EXTREMELY EXTREMELY UPSET !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is not the first time you did this to her and why the hell did you keep on doing this? I love her so I forgive you again and again... you know what, no one EVER MAKES HER CRY!!! AND NO ONE EVER MAKES HER CRY LIKE YOU DO!!!!!! BUT WHY ON EARTH DO YOU KEEP ON HURTING HER?! I just cant believe you do this again........ Please, if you know that you are going to do it again, then yes, please stay away from her and let her go....
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| Of all my cases,
the one that is the most touching and inspiring is the case of a girl who has gone
through much in her relationships and also faces the possibility of losing one of her five senses. I have learnt a lot in her sharing of her experiences and among these
lessons was one that made me reconsider what a smiling and a laugh could mean
to someone in constant pain.
I once believed that
people who have to force themselves to smile do it because they don’t want to acknowledge
their sorrows or show them to others. However, this case allowed me to
understand that such smiling and laughing could also mean that that person is
trying their best to move on and to be optimistic about the current situation.
I lost my grandma
on my birthday last year and my grandpa had just passed away this year. It was
very painful, but it was even more heartbreaking to see my mother’s pain from
the loss. The mourning process was not easy and although my mother showed her sadness,
she still remained positive. Although she cried a lot, a warm smile would always
be on her face when we talk about my late grandparents. It was not until then,
along with the mentioned case, that I realized that it is possible to smile
even when our hearts hurt.
Although such a smile
could be an active attempt to hide their pain, I was once too shallow to appreciate
that such a smile could have deeper and more profound implications. When I think
about this I begin to realize that even if they were to wear a smile as a
protective layer to keep others from their worries and pains, does it really
matter or affect us as therapists?
In the past, I may
attempt to make them understand the meaning behind their smiles as a
pain-avoidance mechanism because I think that would be better for them. But
this also reminds me that therapists are not almighty and we certainly cannot make
them do what we think is best for them – worse, we should not believe that we know
their situation better than them.
In this way, I
feel that I should be looking for those blind-spots with them rather than for
them since it is only in cooperation that therapists could expect to fully understand.
Here then, it is important that we understand the personal reasons behind a
smile instead of applying a template of assumptions that prescribe to our
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| 親愛的公公,
一路走好 =*)
請代向外婆問好!!
外孫女
雯雯 敬上
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| =*) Birthday cakes, Maroon 5, and most importantly, A LOT OF LOVE! =)
What more can I ask for =)))) 
Thanks to you, YOU, & you~~ >*) ~Muah!!!~
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| It has been 9 years ... I still think of you from time to time.. Although I can still see your face in my mind, I cant seem to remember your voice anymore... Two of your favorite songs for you...
~As the deer~
As the deer panteth for the water
So my soul longeth after thee
You alone are my hearts desire
And I long to worship thee
Chorus
You alone are my strength my shield
To You alone may my spirit yield
You alone are my hearts desire
And I long to worship thee
You're my friend and You are my brother,
Even though you are a king.
I love you more thank any other,
So much more than anything.
I want You more than gold or silver,
Only You can satisfy.
You alone are the real joy Giver,
And the apple of my eye.
~Make Me A Servant~
Make me a servant
Humble and meek
LORD let me lift up those who are weak
And may the prayer of my heart
Always be
Make me a servant
Make me a servant
Make me a servant...to-day.
How are you doing up there, dear? =*)
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